As they say “It Takes a Village’ to raise a child.
In the ideal world, children are raised with extended families around; parents are well supported with help around the home, advice from experienced relatives, and thus leave parents with plenty of energy and time to raise their children with unlimited love.
Children at the same time have cousins to play with, relatives to learn and model from, and truly enjoy their parents, who are well supported and have the energy and emotional capacity to support and love them unconditionally.
Ideally, parents would dearly love to spend as much time as they possible could with their children – to love them, to play with them, to be part of their lives and love them unconditionally.
However, in reality, it is not as easy as it sounds. We now live in a society where our lifestyles are very different from the previous generations. We live further away from our family, our parents and extended families. In particular, migrant families are often all alone, living without the support of their families and friends. They have to fend not only for themselves, but for their family.
These dats we have careers / jobs and obligations to be fulfilled in order to support the family. There are after school activities, chores at home to be done, meals to be prepared and other commitments for extended families and friends.
By the end of the day, everyone is tired and stressed.
When someone is tired and their love cup is empty, whether you are a child or an adult, you need that love cup to be filled, and filled quickly. The consequences of operating with an under fuelled love cup will be emotional outbursts, lack of energy, feeling cranky, lacking in fun and joy … until the cup is filled with love and support.
Children too have emotions. They can feel scared, jealous, humiliated, fearful, anxious etc., and their nervous system is not yet developed. Thus they need to find an outlet to express themselves and to be refilled with love. The outlet can either be a temper-tantrum or via laughter or play.
How to fill the love cup?
To a child (as well as an adult) Play = FUN, and FUN comes about through play and laughter. Play can release stress.
Play that makes them giggle is a fun positive way to help them to release those emotions … through laughter, through tumbling on the floor, through running and happy screams.
An example: you can chase them along, trying to catch them, but pretending to fall down so that you can’t catch them But finally you manage to catch them, give them a big tight hug when you get hold of them, and give them 10, 20 or 30 kisses etc…. until they giggle and laugh out loudly etc. Boys and girls react positively to hugs.
Release Stress Energy
This way, play helps your child to release pent up energy, anxieties and stress.
As for parents, with the ever increasing workload and parenting duties, adults tend to forget about their own physical wellness. They are constantly rushing, and worrying about their work, children and the household. And parents worry about finances, so as a result, the worry causes anxiety, stress and eventually diseases. Play can release this stress.
Therefore, by playing and having time with your kids, you too will find that after playing you all feel more energised and relaxed.
This is because the frustrations, irritations and stresses that you carry the whole day actually make you tired and exhausted.
When you play, you discharge the stress and tensions (just like children), and so you feel less tired.
Play is not just for Kids! Parents feel better too.
If you were to have some fun playing with your children, even for 10-15 minutes when you get home, both you and your children will feel less overwhelmed, less stressed and more energised. And your children will be more cooperative.
Have I got your attention right now?
So, start laughing again. Adults should give themselves permission to play again and re-discover the joy and pleasure of play that they had in their childhood. Play diminishes the stress from day to day responsibilities, and playing brings joy and vitality back, so relationships improve as you reconnect with yourself.
Make the time
That’s why, right now. It is more crucial than normal to consciously make the time, set a few minutes a day to connect with your children, to be:
- Emotionally available
- Make 15 minutes a day to connect
- Have crazy and serious fun with your children
- Or just chill out and make some time for yourself.
Do whatever it takes to bridge the connections and meltdowns that occur within a family.
If making time is a challenge for you, I have listed 30 ways on how you can connect with your children through everyday activities,. These activities are easy to implement and literally cost you nothing, but your time.
Take the steps now and bridge the connections with your children through FUN. I have created a 30 fun hands-on interactions with your children. Have fun and let me know how this information has helped you.