A few weeks ago I wrote an article saying instead of ‘battle’ with your children ‘redirect’ them. I thought I’d share with you another idea about talking with your children.
If you are trying to get a particular message across to your child, but find it a bit tricky to speak to them directly, this little “trick” can work:
(1) Redirect their attention to something similar to the topic that you would like to discuss
(2) Use questions to convey your message.
Let’s use an example: You want to talk about drugs with your children.
Scenario 1- You sit your children down and tell them about:
· the danger of drugs
· why they should not use drugs
· the damage drugs can do to their health
· the impact on the family
· other drug points.
Scenario 2- Redirect:
· Guide them to a TV program/movie with a drug theme.
· Let them witness the impact of drugs will have, not only on him/herself, but to the family and friends.
· Let them witness the damage the drugs can do to their health/their body.
· Use questioning to convey your message:
(a) Why do you think the child is on drugs?
(b) What do you think would be the impact on his family?
(c) What do you think the child has given up in his life by being a drug user?
(d) If you were that child, how would you feel? Scared?
(e) If you were his friend, what would you have done?
(f) How do you think our family would react if you were on drugs?
(g) What is the prospect of the life of a drug user?
Which scenario would be more useful or effective?
For me, scenario 2 works all the time. Every time when I am struggling with the right examples or words to convey a message to my children, a “live” scenario would be the one I would go for.
What do you think?
Do you use similar tactics?
Would love to hear your thoughts and please share them with the community.
Have a connected day with your family.