Both my children are now young adults; however, during the last 20 plus years of parenting, I think I must have asked myself “what have I got myself into?” many times.
There were days when both my children were unsettled, cranky, upset… and I can still remember those days when I was in pyjamas the whole day; either I did not have the time to change or was not in the mood to change, can’t really remember.
I remember taking my 19 month old son to the city for an appointment one day. I thought instead of driving the car in, a bus and train trip would be a nice change for him. However, when it was time to get off the bus, my 19 month old son had a change of mind about the train. What happened on the bus is a blur now, but … there I was, very pregnant with my daughter, a stroller in one arm and a screaming toddler on the other. I will leave you to imagine the rest…
I would say my daughter was a shocking “perfectionist” when she was a toddler. Many mornings when I had to get my son to school and my daughter to preschool, my daughter would decide at the very last minute before we would head out of the house that her blouse or shorts/skirt/dress/sock were not matching and she had to change. She would go through the cupboard for at least half an hour trying, changing, trying and changing again and again and again… until she got herself so upset and in tears. It goes without saying both my son and I were more distressed than she was, as he would be late for school, and I still couldn’t get her to decide on an outfit so we could leave the house.
Can you relate to those scenes? I am sure every parent would have some interesting stories to share with their children on their 21st birthdays…
Now looking back, we are blessed with many interesting incidences to share with my children. And the funny thing is, when I am really upset with either of them right now, those wonderful “incidences” would automatically surface in my memory without having to think about it… and I can laugh at them now and will tell myself – it will pass as tomorrow is a brand new day!
What I am trying to say is, all those incidences do pass. You will get over it after a few hours or after a good nights sleep. All will be forgotten as tomorrow is a brand new day, a brand new start. There will be more new things to learn, and more “incidences” to explore and share.
We are truly blessed to be able share all those memories with them someday – as tomorrow is a brand new day!