Your reasons for migrating to a new country can be many, but mostly people migrate because they are searching for better quality of life for their family or a better educational system for their children.
One of the struggles that parents face daily is the lack of support from family members and extended family when they leave the comfort of their home town and venture out on their own into a new country.
When you are back in your home country, you are being surrounded by your extended family, being supported round the clock, so you are living in a very comfortable environment and familiar surroundings.
When you move to a new country, being on your own is actually something that would benefit you greatly in the long run.
You see, being on your own is a step towards stepping out of your comfort zone. It is an opportunity to test your capabilities, your resilience and resourcefulness when you are away from the comfort of your familiar surroundings, your childhood friends, your families and the community you are so used to.
When you are away from the usual support, you will learn new survival skills; you will then realise how resourceful, capable and resilient you can be. By achieving things with your own capabilities, learning about your true abilities, it can be a very powerful self esteem boost.
When you step into your own powerful resources:
- You learn more about yourself
- You learn about your capabilities, your resilience and your resourcefulness
- You learn to listen and trust your own instinct more
- You begin to feel more confident from what you have achieved
- You will start to believe in your own resourcefulness
- You are more aware and more empathetic about the people and your surroundings
- You will realise that self love is a necessity and not being selfish
- You will learn that your outlook in life will be very different from your relatives at home and you will be all right with it.
My husband and I have been in Australia for almost 30 years, and each time we visit our home town in Malaysia, we realise how far we have come. We now know how much we have learned about ourselves and how many life skills we have gained, all through learning to step out of our comfort zone, be willing to put ourselves out there to learn and to tap into our own capabilities.
On top of that, I am so proud to say our bond with our children is strong, because we were hands on parents. Bonding and relationships are built at the most challenging of times. We cried and laughed together; we struggled together despite the few hours of sleep of we had. However, by the end of the day, we knew we would be there for each other, and that's what counts.
We believe that we have done the best we could to provide for our family and learnt about ourselves, all through stepping out of our comfort zone and be willing to take the chance on a new lifestyle in our adopted country.
Hang in there. No matter what happens, as long as you've tried your best, and stepped out of your comfort zone, you will get through this rough patch and come out a stronger person than you realised!
Wishing your family joy and happiness in your adopted country.