We need to take stock of what’s important in our lives. We think we may know, but our bodies actually do tell us a lot. Here is my story, so please reflect as you read it.
As you may know, I just came back from a short break to visit my family in Malaysia. I would have thought the 3 weeks away would have been a great time to relax both my mind and body. But fit enough to come back to hit the floor running with my work?
Ever since I arrived home, I have been very busy catching up on 3 weeks of mail, my studies, and writing and researching… on top of every other thing we do as a parent.
However, over the past few days, my neck was starting to ache, my shoulder was extremely tensed and I was not sleeping properly at night. I had no choice but to visit my chiropractor -acupuncturist. He told me to relax and don’t be so tense.
I was a bit puzzled; I was not feeling stressed with work…
How could I? I have just come back from a 3 week break, how could I be possibly be feeling stressed?
But there is one thing I can’t ignore – our bodies do not lie.
What’s the message?
Your body does not lie. What goes through your mind, whether consciously or unconsciously, will be picked up by your body and it will send you a message, either through discomfort or aches and pains.
So I spent one whole day in bed, as I was having difficulty sitting at my desk and in front of my computer. I did some reading and writing in bed, but most of the time I spent reflecting on my week.
This is what noticed. While I was resting in bed, I could not stop my mind thinking of what I should be doing….the ironing…the washing…the mess that was in the spare room that I had to go through… I needed to re-organise my studies … what’s for dinner… …my writing…
I know I have been busy since I arrived home. I was coping, remaining calm and feeling relaxed… but I did not realise my mind was not.
Now… what’s the message here…
When we are in the “stress” and “busy” mode, we tend to be drawn to things that cause us more stress. As all I could focus on was the “mess”, things that I “need” to do (even though it did not need to be done there and then) … lack of time… tension…frustration…
I forgot about music, relaxation, fun… and most of all, I forgot to laugh…and I mean A BIG LAUGH!
Occasionally we need to be reminded to step back, slow down and take stock of what’s going on in our lives. For this instance, it is my body that’s the reminder.
Take stock of what’s important in our lives. For me, I do not have to clean out the spare room there and then, I can spread out the time on when to re-organise my studies… I can structure my writing and studying to a manageable level…
Take stock of what’s important right now, and not what “ought” to be done in the future…
And don’t neglect to relax, whether it be meditation, walking or exercising and most of all, incorporate music in your day.
- Make note of your priorities and intentions every day, preferably every morning.
- Pay attention to “reminders” when they show up, whether through your children or your body.
- Make a commitment to spend some time reflecting and relaxing everyday.
- Make time for things that are important – i.e. your children and family.
- Create a to-do list that is achievable.
- Incorporate music and or exercise in your day.
- Don’t forget to have fun and laugh everyday!
Remember, our bodies do not lie!
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