Parents need to proactively make time to connect and play with their children, so that they will feel safe, valued and loved, thus helping them to reduce daily stresses and anxieties
Every human being has a need for human connections. Young children, especially, need those loving and close connections most of all. Children need to feel the closeness and the connections with their parents or their primary carer daily so they can feel safe. These connections also recharge their love cups.
What in your child's love cup?
Your child needs to feel valued, loved, listened to and honoured through loving connections with his/her parents. They need to feel the attention of loved ones and loving physical contact. Those feelings and connections fill the love cup.
This is different to a lack of love or bonding between parents and children. In today's busy lifestyle with its challenges, there is often a lack of connections between parents and children.
When you are stressed, tired, busy and have a long to-do list, how would you make the time to connect with your children?
"Proactively" making time and create connections
That action has to be made consciously and deliberately. When I say "proactively" creating connections… I really mean it.
We now live in a society where our lifestyles are very different from the previous generations. We live further away from our family, our parents and extended families. In particular, migrant families are often all alone, living without the support of their families and friends. They have to fend not only for themselves, but for their family.
On top of that, these days we have careers and obligations to be fulfilled in order to support the family. There are after school activities, chores at home to be done, meals to be prepared and other commitments for extended families and friends. Thus, finding time to connect with your children is going to be a challenge, and probably is at the bottom of your to-do list.
However, your children experience as much emotion as any human being, big or small. Their brains are still developing, and they are still learning about their emotions daily, such as frustration, disappointment, jealousy, fear, happiness, sadness, anxiety… These emotions create stress in them, as they are still learning how to deal with them.
When your children are stressed, they need to release these stressful emotions either through temper tantrums, crying, yelling, hitting or PLAY…
Which option would you choose? – Filling your child's love cup with PLAY
By proactively making time to connect and play with your children, your children will know and feel that they are valued and loved; because to your child, TIME is s-p-e-l-t LOVE!
By making the time to connect through playing together, you are literally helping them to release their pent up energy through happy screams, physical interactions and activities (play catch or running around)… while making playing together as an opportunity to be involved, to connect and to build stronger relationships with them.
By proactively making time to connect and play with your children, your children will feel safe, valued and loved, thus reduce stress and anxiety.
Play is not just for Kids! Parents feel better too.
Have a wonderful time connecting with your children.