Connecting with your children happens at all ages
Since my son was very young, he has enjoyed books, stories, music etc. We spent many hours in the local libraries, searching for his favourite books as well as attending many of the story telling sessions. He would also like to have music or a story recording being played to him during bed time.
When he started school, our focus somehow shifted. I was focused more on his academic side, i.e. homework, music lessons, and worrying whether he was able to follow the curriculum.
Somehow I FORGOT about his love for stories and music…
I remembered most times, after reading something interesting, he would bring that book to me and tell me to read that book; he would say, "read this, you will enjoy it". Books such as Happy Potter, Star Wars and many more…
Throughout the years, he has introduced me to many books, just like I had introduced him to many of my favourite childhood movies, i.e. the Walt Disney Classics, like Cinderella, Snow White, Star Wars etc.
Recently there was a rerun of all the Star Wars movies and we spent the whole weekend watching them. The follow up conversation was fun and intersected themes, as we discussed about the story lines, the making of the movies, and about the powerful creative geniuses like George Lukas. He is now re-introducing me (left them on my bedside) to his collection of Star Wars book series… AND the YouTube videos on how the movies were made etc.
What I am trying to share with you is your children will always find ways to reach out to connect with you, and to bond and build relationships with you. This can be through books, movies, play, music, actions, food, cooking, gardening, the love of animals, nature, dance etc. They will use what they know best and also know that you will enjoy sharing those special moments with them.
My son knew I enjoyed movies and books, and he does too, so those two events/activities are our connecting medium. We will talk about the movies we enjoyed together, the dialogue, the storyline, the ending and whether we liked it or not, or how we would change the storyline…
So be on the lookout when your child/children are trying to reach out to you, and see what they are trying to share with you.
Have a connected day with your children