Yesterday I had a great chat with a friend, I was deciding how to merge or “marry” both GoKids and GoParents content together. My questions: Whether to have a teleseminar for parents? What about the content relating to the kids? My friend just said, “Just believe in your yourself and your product”.
WOW!! That was the answer I needed to hear!
So I was thinking this morning, how does this apply to parenting?
So, let me ask you…
Do you sometimes feel that you are at a loose end, not sure whether you are going on the right track?
Why aren’t the children listening?
Wondering what is the next technique or new tool to apply?
What have you done or did not do?
Whether your parenting methods are working?
Whether you are doing enough or not enough as a parent?
Do the above sound familiar?
The answer is BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!! Believe that you are the best parent for your children. Believe that you will know what to do and what to say and how to say it. Believe and trust that you have the best tools and answers for your children.
Below are a few tips I would like to share with you:
- When you are in a difficult or conflicting position with your children, first, be present about what you feel in the moment; be present with the words you use in the moment, the tone and the reasoning behind your wordings. Use positive words.
- When you start making these conscious decisions, you will soon have a more conscious and clear picture of your actions, your thoughts, your feelings, and what is working for you and what is not. Then you may gradually direct the focus towards a bigger and harmonious outcome.
- Think about what do you want to achieve? How would you like to feel about the outcome?
For example, when you are having an argument with your teenager, both of you are getting really heated in the argument. If you feel that it is moving to a path you do not wish to go on, this is what you do.
1. Take three deep breaths; bring your thoughts and emotions back to the present. Ask yourself the following questions: Why are both of you arguing in the first place? What was the trigger for the argument?
2. Check with yourself: what are your feelings (emotions) right now? Are the feelings and words coming out of the argument going to solve the issue? If it is not, put a stop to it there and then, and make a conscious decision to decide what you would like the outcome to be? And how would you like to approach the issue?
3. Believe that there is a much better way to resolve the issue than pursuing an argument. It is like an argument that is going nowhere and worse, it is moving towards a whole angry, imbalanced energy realm.
Believe that you are the parent, and you understand your children. Believe that if you consciously make a decision to solve the issue with ease and without having to go through a big argument, you can do it. I am sure your child or teenager would welcome that. Most times, all they need is to be heard, and to understand where their reasoning are coming from, which may not always be from our view point.
Believe that you are your children’s best advisor. You are the best parent your child can ever have, and you are the parent your child chose.
Now take three big breaths, close your eyes and start to BELIEVE!!
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