Every child is a unique individual with his own unique way of expressing their needs.
In the previous post, we talked about how every child is unique, and they have different ways of expressing themselves as well as different ways of learning. Some people are gifted with writing, some with drawing, some are knowledge seekers and constantly reading and learning, while some are born to lead or some are born to love and care for others, like nurses and doctors, and there are many more unique styles.
In today’s blog, I am sharing with you how you can empower your child to learn with joy and fun, and by taking into account his or her unique individual style.
Why is this important?
Understanding leads to connecting. When you understand what each child’s character is, their strengths and their weaknesses, how they convey their needs, how they expresses themselves, what their interests, their likes and dislikes are… it makes it easier for you to connect with them at a level that he or she can understand and is easier to comprehend.
You see, guiding or teaching your children is about connecting with them at their level, so that you can share and impart your knowledge. Guiding with love means you empower them in a way that they can appreciate and understand.
When your child understands what is being communicated, only then he or she will be able to appreciate and enjoy what is being shared with them.
Children are born learners
Children are like sponges when it comes to learning and gaining new knowledge about the world. They are so eager to learn and absorb everything about the world, whenever the opportunities arises.
For example, for a baby, he or she uses sound (babbles and crys), facial expressions and body movement to communicate about their feelings – such as being hungry, cold, hot, agitated, tired etc. And through back-and-forth cooing and smiling (when she smiles and you smile back) they learn about reciprocity.
As for a toddler, he or she will learn to string 1-2 words together, using their body, facial expressions and sound to let parents know how they are feeling. They also learn through mimicking what people say and do, so do watch the words that you use and how you react to things. They also start to have strong opinions about things, such as they would prefer apple to oranges.
For a preschooler – This is the time when you start hearing the “whys“; this is the time when your child is beginning to understand how things work and are connected. They also start to share their feelings and thoughts through words and learning to see from another person’s point of view. Pretend-play will come into play, for example your child will act and sing as one of the Wiggles or a postman delivering letters etc. This will help their imagination.
The only thing that is stopping them from learning and acquiring knowledge … is when they lose the connections to the communications that are being shared with them by either their carer, teachers or the community/society.
For example, if a child does not learn the way the adults expect them to i.e. behave, and if he or she were reprimanded with consequences of being ridiculed, punished or criticised for that, then he/she will learn to withdraw and stop learning out of fear. As a result, they will eventually be disconnected from the joy of learning.
Play = Learning
Children learn through joy and fun, i.e. Play. The moment a child stops enjoying the interaction and loses the connections, he or she will also stop learning. Remember, children’s learning is through FUN, and playing is FUN to them.
So, make your shared memories with them fun and joyful, and inspire your child to learn through FUN and JOY and not through FEAR by honouring your child’s individual’s unique qualities and gifts and being their guiding force.